Our first question for “Don’t Cry In Your Beer” !!
From Frustrated February 2, 2010 at 3:27 am
“On a lighter side. If women are so good at multi-tasking, why can’t they have sex and a headache at the same time?”
Lynn’s Two Cents…
Well, an interesting and fun first question for “Don’t Cry in Your Beer”…thanks for asking. And although the question is obviously in fun, I still of course have an answer for you…which I’m sure will totally amuse our Drink Guy Glenn!
So first, despite the fact that there are many scientific studies that do seem to indicate that women’s brains are better structured for multi-tasking than men’s, it is my personal experience that not all women are good at multi-tasking, and some men are very good at it. However, since having a headache and having sex at the same time is not really multi-tasking, the answer really is that they can do it; they just don’t want to do it.
So, let’s assume that the woman in question has no specific health issue that cause her to suffer from constant debilitating headaches, and assume that it is more of an excuse to avoid sex with you. If you are finding that you are hearing this “reason” a lot from your significant other, (and I hope you take this with the spirit of helpfulness that it is intended to be!) and thus you are “frustrated” then maybe it is time to wonder…why does she not want to have sex with me? Now I know men can get all weird when talking or thinking about the “needs” of his woman in a relationship, but really, if the goal is to enjoy a better sex life, there are other factors that generally need to be taken into consideration and dealt with. Sex for men can be a strictly physical thing, but sex for women generally is much more than that. (Generally, not always!) So you can ask yourself “What need does she have that I am not fulfilling, emotional or physical? Do I make her feel loved and appreciated? Is sex with me what she needs it to be?” Because I can assure you that, contrary to popular belief, women have strong sex drives too, and a woman that is happy with her significant other and feels safe within that relationship will want to have sex with him, sometimes even when she has a headache!
Glenn’s Two Cents…
I am so not touching this one. And for the record, I give a great foot massage. Working my way slowly up the body, using lightly scented oils. Ending at the neck and head with slow, soft kisses on the lips and ears.
The Drink Guy